
I took away great value from my short stay at Kripalu a couple of weeks ago, especially in the area of accepting what presently is in my life. In a 1-hour session on mindfulness with Randal Williams, I heard much to reinforce and to help deepen practices I’ve been using.
Before the recession hit, my business life was full of activities, all heading in the direction of my passion, but at such a frenetic pace I never had time to be still and evaluate what I was doing. There was so much going on that sticky issues would easily get bypassed because something new and exciting was coming to replace it.
Yes, I’ve always had my Mastermind Group to run things by, and I speak regularly to an action partner. But now there are longer gaps, quieter times and bigger questions that time has allowed to surface. Are you finding yourself with open spaces of time to mull your direction and wonder what’s next?
In Randal’s handout, he noted that ‘What helps to lift us out of our suffering is our infinite capacity to become the transcendent witness: I can see myself having this experience. This witness ability is strengthened through meditation.’
Separating myself out from the businesswoman who is experiencing pain or suffering because an outcome wasn’t just so is essential to my peace of mind and my success.When I have a phone conversation that has my heart racing I practice what I’ve been taught. Here’s an example of the self-talk conversation:
“I’m noticing that my heart is racing. I just got off of a disappointing call that wasn’t quite what I expected. Look at this. My breath is really fast and shallow now. I’m feeling constriction in my chest. And, I’m sitting here on this glorious fall day, seeing the sun shine and being aware of these sensations. Now, what was I so scared about?”
Notice the beginnings of detachment already happening? The more we can practice this mindfulness in our businesses, the happier, more serene and ultimately more successful we’ll become.


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November 10, 2009 at 8:54 am
elaine koufman
2009 has really been a lesson in practicing every topic u post on your blog. i have always listened to what you advise with great interest, but from time to time i forget to live the way i think. this blog has become an affirmation of all that is healthy about the opportunities in a bleak economy. witness my new website, a passion developed with your supportive blogging, inbetween a small job here and there for past clients. i am liking the absence of the fast 24/7 pace. i spend more time with me and the people i care about.
November 10, 2009 at 12:39 pm
Lennie Rose
Hi Jane,
Great topic.
We are all living our current lives under different circumstances and this is very difficult. My past experiences are not equipping me for my future experiences. It is only the ability to live in the present, to constantly reflect and to tolerate the ambiguity that gives me a footing. I had a lesson in this last week that might be relevant.
For the first time in 20 years, my husband left on a journey for 10 days – the longest time I have ever been alone. His trip gave me a huge dose of “quiet” time and silence. At first the silence was incredibly turbulent, my mind was dashing & fractured, hopping from thought to thought, fear to fear, outrage to outrage, chest pounding to not, until I realized that this is what it has been doing all along!
That it is not the circumstances – it’s how I react to unknowing, react to challenges, react to groping in the dark for answers that are causing such tumult.
Once I became aware of the origins, there was a deepening ability to observe my internal reactions- and while this is a detachment, ironically it is a way to become more connected.
Once connected to things, I can deal with them. The whole process helps me make conscious decisions that helps lead me to a life of my choosing, which includes a business.
November 11, 2009 at 10:36 am
janepollak
@Elaine
All good! Tell me how to find you on the web. I want to see more…
@Lennie Rose
So well said and a great example. Thank you.
November 16, 2009 at 7:12 am
elaine koufman
http://www.cutupsbyelaine.etsy.com is the website. etsy sells wonderful handmade american items and is a good venue for newbies to internet business.
November 16, 2009 at 7:15 am
elaine koufman
http://www.cutupsbyelaine.etsy.com is the website. etsy sells wonderful handmade items and is a good venue for newbies to internet business.
November 17, 2009 at 11:57 am
Julianne Stirling
I don’t tell you often but I love your inspirations. This one reminds me of a wonderful card my niece sent me yesterday. I will try to write it the way it was on the card:
Good Morning. This is God.
I will be handling all your problems today.
I will not need your help.
So have a good time.
I love you.
Isn’t that great! It sure put a smile on my face. I am framing it.
November 19, 2009 at 7:50 am
janepollak
@Julianne
What a great card from your niece! I love that message! Thanks for sharing it with me/us.