
I’ve been a fan of Martha Beck ever since reading Expecting Adam: A True Story of Birth, Rebirth, and Everyday Magic over a decade ago. She’s a life coach, author and columnist for O Magazine, whose wisdom and words are inspiring. Her recent column in O’s September issue was so on point for one of my clients, I had to read her my underlines.
This particular client was being self-critical of her need for personal time and rest. She wasn’t finding her mojo and felt guilty about it. Martha’s piece entitled “Lying Low” addressed this. “Humans are the only creature in nature that resist the pattern of ebb and flow.” We think we have to keep moving, keep generating, keep trying to solve, solve, solve when sometimes the solution is to step aside and rest.
“…The darkness between days, the emptiness between fill-ups, the fallow time between growing seasons–are the necessary complements of upbeats.” To everything, there is a season. Resting and restoring are parts of the cycle we so easily overlook, more so when our minds are telling us to keep striving. Sometimes the solution is to stop and let time pass.
That said, I’m leaving for a mini-vacation to Kripalu, my favorite place to go for R & R. These last days of August feel a lot like the end of December when it seems that no one is around. The phone is quiet, networking events are non-existent (except for mine next week!) and everyone appears to be operating in back-to-school or last-chance-for-the-beach mode. Rather than fight it or try to make it different, I’m taking off to a place where I can rest, get a massage and be in nature.
Come the hectic pace of September I know I’ll look back on this quiet time and be grateful that I didn’t push my way through it but surrendered instead. Thanks for the reminder, Martha.


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September 2, 2010 at 8:32 am
Michelle Hazlewood
I loved “Expecting Adam” & was having some very weird parallels at the time or the reading. Thrilled that you enjoy her too. Enjoy your R & R!!
September 2, 2010 at 3:15 pm
Lisa Montanaro
Jane-
Thank you for such a great post! I absolutely LOVE Martha Beck, and have read many of her books. Expecting Adam is life changing, but I also loved Leaving the Saints about her journey defecting the Mormon Church, and Finding Your North Star which I recommend to my coaching clients.
I also appreciated your gentle nudge to take time to relax and rejuvenate. It is often hard for us entrepreneurs to stop working, as we love what we do and always feel there is more to accomplish. But yes, we have to take a step back or we will burn out.
I have yet to visit Kripalu but plan to this fall or winter for the first time. I hear it is an incredible place. Enjoy your time there!
Fondly – Lisa
September 2, 2010 at 8:10 pm
janepollak
@Michelle
Nice to have that in common!
@Lisa
I read Leaving the Saints, too, and found it amazingly candid and powerful. She’s a gutsy woman. I just got an email from a friend who experienced Kripalu for the first time this past weekend based on many friends’ encouragement to try it. She LOVED it. I hope you’ll schedule in some well-deserved time there yourself.
September 13, 2010 at 1:41 pm
Brooke Feder
Jane,
Thank you for this excellent reminder and wise advice. It is entirely natural to need sleep, rest, relaxation, even puttering! If you watch the animal channel, you will see Lions – animals with an extremely efficient design for survival – and there are many times when they are not feeding, reproducing, nurturing their young, hunting, or the other functions we know are necessary for being. Sometimes, even the lions are just sitting in the sun!
I am reminded of my yoga instructor who reminds us that “waiting isn’t the opposite of action… waiting is preparation.”
Have a wonderful retreat Jane!
March 9, 2011 at 1:31 pm
katiegoodman1
Check out Martha and Katie Goodman in a video they made doing a hilarious riff on self help. It’s on Katie’s blog and it’s called “World’s Worst Life Coach”
http://katiegoodman1.wordpress.com/