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I was sitting at my desk yesterday before leaving for a hectic afternoon of coaching and meetings. I call the MTA to find out how to get the 30-day deal on my EasyPay card which can’t be inserted into the machines. Of course they’re experiencing high call volume, so while I’m on hold, I begin creating a personalized holiday card that includes a photo. Since the image is taking awhile to upload, and I’m still waiting for a human voice to pick up my call about my MetroCard, I start going through my inbox of 73 messages, many of which require a focused response.
Are you exhausted just reading this tale of busy-ness? I’m sure you can top it with your own. But, it’s not a competition, and surely no one wins.
A client told me on our recent call that she’d read an article about 10 ways to make your life easier around the holidays. One tip was to turn off Facebook and twitter on your phone.
I had an alternate solution. Don’t read articles about saving time.
In fact, make a decision to stay focused on one thing at a time and CHOOSE what that one thing is. I came up with this tip after feeling so discombobulated by my own earlier behavior.
Julie Morgenstern, the queen of organization, says that opening emails early in the morning opens up a different drawer in your brain. Yesterday it felt like there were three drawers open with wrinkly clothes hanging out, i.e. a mess. Just for today, turn everything off except the one task you’re working on. Complete it, and move onto the next one.
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Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving!
Mine was perfection, meaning that it included the people I love (minus one sick grandchild and her parents), amazing food prepared by my chef nephew and my sister (at whose knee his passion was quickened), easy traffic to negotiate and a sparkling clear sky.
And now it’s the day after, and I’m not a shopper. I’m using this morning to debrief the Evolving Consciousness Community Cruise I attended and spoke on in early November.
The biggest takeaway was spending time with some truly remarkable men and women. I also used the days at sea for my own personal retreat sorting through old journals and recording quotes and feelings experienced in the last 30 years that I had faithfully recorded.
From the event itself, here are a few of the highlights and recommendations I’d like to learn more about and/or pass on to you.
- Speaker Bhava Ram inspired me to learn more about his breathtaking journey of healing from a broken back and terminal cancer to otpimum health and vibrancy. I downloaded his book Warrior Pose, a riveting account of his story that held me rapt for several days till I completed it.
- I’m inspired to learn more from his teacher, Emmett Miller, and will subscribe to his podcasts for more enlightenment.
- I put a reserve on the book Grain Brain recommended by a fellow passenger. Reading the amazon synopsis affirmed its importance.
- I’ve also reserved the downloadable version of Proof of Heaven about an MD who was brain dead for 7 days and is now a believer in near death experiences.
- I want to learn more about the Higgs Boson God Particle discovery. I’m sure that now that it’s on my list, it’ll pop up in conversation or as a lecture soon. That’s how these things work, right?
- A couple of memorable quotes that reinforced my own belief system: “Eating junk food is the equivalent of vandalizing our spirits.”
- Einstein’s quote: The intellect has little to do on the road to discovery. There comes a leap in consciousness, call it Intuition or what you will, the solution comes to you and you don’t know how or why.”
- “The best exercise is the one you do.”
I told my goal buddy that I didn’t have too many notes to record, but after re-reading my list, I see I got more out of it than I thought. I’ll use the last bullet point as my motivator as well as any feedback that you might provide.
I moved to NYC a year ago. That was a leap. After 40 years in Connecticut, moving to the Big Apple was a fantasy come true.
I immediately joined a local fellowship as my anchor here. Shortly after I became a regular participant, I heard a woman in the group talk about a life-changing adventure she was about to embark upon. After hearing her mention this a few times, curiosity got the better of me, and I asked her to meet for coffee so I could learn more. “Life-changing” is a keyword in my vocabulary. I listen very carefully when I hear it spoken.
She told me that twenty-some years ago she had sailed with an institution called Semester at Sea and that it had changed her life. She was taking the opportunity to get onboard again as a Lifelong Learner–to sail around the world in an educational environment. “Tell me more!” I insisted.
I left our coffee date and immediately logged onto their website and saw the trip of a lifetime mapped out in front of me. I’ve long been envious of friends who have ventured to China, India and Africa wondering how I might find my way there. A work opportunity? A wedding to attend? What would show up in my life that would quench this desire?
Movies and literature have fanned the flame–Slumdog Millionaire, Outsourced, A Fine Balance, stories by Jhumpa Lahiri. Reading travel pages in newspapers in magazines deepened my desire. A friend’s move to India to follow a guru; another’s move to Bali to change it up have not gone unnoticed.
Then there was the milestone birthday, becoming a grandmother (twice) and changing marital status which have each reminded me that life is short and to be grabbed while you can. Enough waiting to see if this was going to happen. Time to seize the moment and enroll.
My friend boarded the Spring 2013 voyage. I knew as soon as I read the itinerary that I would enroll in the Spring 2014 semester. Something inside of me knew and insisted that this was the trip and this was the time to embark. You know when something is right. Taking the leap is the scary part, but once it’s taken, the momentum carries you. Which is a good thing with all the minutia to be attended to in preparation: attaining visas, getting malaria pills and a yellow fever vaccine, converting currency and taking care of finances.
Three months is a long time to be away, especially with the limited internet access that being at sea means. I’m winding down with my current clients, completing with the groups I lead and saying no to invitations that include February, March and April in them. I’ll miss my family, my friends, my colleagues and the wonderful man in my life. I’m secure enough to trust and believe that they will welcome me back when I return in early May.
My itinerary includes 11 countries, a selection of inviting courses to audit, field labs and excursions and new friends to meet. I’m incredibly excited to be opening myself to so many new experiences, challenges and ways of thinking. I know that I will return different, and I look forward to the transformation.
My business’s tag line is Leading Remarkable Women to Uncommon Success. I’ve long admired women who take adventures, challenge themselves, embark. If I want to continue to live my tag line, this journey is my next step on that path.
If you’d like to come with me in spirit, I’d love to coach you on creating your itinerary. I’ve designed a program just for that purpose. What are you waiting for? (See offer below video.)
And I’d like to take you along with me…in spirit that is!
I can’t imagine being disconnected from my community of soul proprietors for several months, and as I discussed this concern with my own mastermind, the idea for a new coaching program was born!
My intention is to fill this “travel” program with soul proprietors who have the vision and commitment to reach six goals in their life or business by May – that’s one goal for every port of call!
This program will consist of two individual coaching sessions and one group coaching session.
The first individual session will be held in December or January, and the second individual session will be held upon my return in May (5th – 9th).
On May 12, all members of this group will come together for a group coaching event held in New York City.
We will begin in December or January (you can schedule the day/time that works best for you), with my signature 60-minute “Dream Peek” session.
Think of this as your time to map out your own itinerary. Together we will determine what goals and tasks you will complete before we “set sail.”
I will provide you with a mind map that we will work through together, making sure you have everything you need for your journey.
We will also spend time addressing the fears or roadblocks that may come up as part of this process.
Your “destinations” will correspond with my itinerary:
January 28 – Depart the US for Japan
February 7 – Shanghai, China
February 15 – Vietnam
March 1 – Burma
March 15 – India
April 1 – Cape Town, South Africa
April 15 – Ghana
May 2 – Return to NYC via England
On May 12 we will conclude our program by comparing our journeys through an in-person group coaching session held in the library of my apartment building (400 W. 63rd Street – NYC).
I believe carving out time to work on your business, and setting clearly defined goals and deadlines is critical to both your long-term success and ongoing growth. The women I have coached over the past 30 years have published books, organized conferences, launched businesses, hired staff and had their artwork featured in galleries – to name a few visions realized.
The price to participate is $397 and I will begin scheduling Dream Peek sessions onDecember 2.
If this program speaks to you, please don’t delay in signing up. I am limiting the program to 20 soul proprietors. As this is the only group coaching program that I will be offering until the Fall of 2014, I expect it to fill quickly!
As always, please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any questions.
I’m looking forward to taking you with me on this once-in-a-lifetime journey, knowing that each time I step into a new country, you too have taken one more step toward achieving your goals! Register here.
My next coaching community call will be on December 6, and the topic is Remember What it Was Like to Work for Someone Else.
As I was pondering this subject matter, a scene from Kramer vs. Kramer popped into my head. It’s when Dustin Hoffman sits down with a yellow legal pad and starts listing the pros and cons of assuming custody of his son once Meryl Streep, aka Mrs. Kramer, decides she wants back into her role as mother.
I wanted to get it right when sharing the story, but didn’t want to have to watch the whole movie. So, I googled ‘Kramer vs. Kramer list-making scene.’ And guess what popped up first? The entire screenplay!
I have to tell you, I was shocked. Isn’t the screenwriter monitoring stuff like that? That’s the legal question I was wondering about.
Back to why that scene was so important, and what that has to do with including it in my talk. I now know exactly what Ted Kramer wrote down under the CON column–why he shouldn’t assume custody. They were all logical, rational and important reasons why it made no sense for him to continue full-time care of their son.
The PRO side was blank. Do you remember the scene that followed?
That’ll be the essence of my talk that Friday afternoon. It can make all the sense in the world to have a full-time job, receive a regular paycheck and have a title after your name. But, if your most important value(s) is/are being neglected, it cancels out every rationale on the planet. If you know the story, that scene transformed Ted Kramer.
Knowing what you value most is what puts the soul into soul proprietor. I love talking about this!
My physical therapist*, that’s who!
I told my weekly support team that I’ve been spending five minutes a day crawling around the gym in my building to re-align my back and that it was working beautifully. I’ve been feeling terrific and wanted to share it with them. After all, they’ve heard me complain over the last several months. Speaking of crawling one’s way back to health…
One of my support team members said, “I love that you’re assuming a posture of humility in your quest for excellent health.”
The other team member acknowledged supportively that I would do whatever it takes to get better. “You’ll do anything as long as it’s in alignment with your beliefs.”
Somehow their words seemed symbolic of everything that’s happening in my life. What advice have you received lately, and how does it align with whatever else is going on in your life?
*I was referred to Kima Wellness on 22nd Street by a blog reader of mine. She proclaimed that the one of the founders of that company solved her back issue and kept her out of surgery. This woman commuted from Newtown, CT to Manhattan three days a week (a feat in itself) to be healed by this wonder woman. That was all the urging I needed. I made an appointment.
Preparing for my Soul Proprietor Community call recently I included words from Ecclesiastes (aka Simon and Garfunkel’s Turn, Turn, Turn) which says, “there is a time to refrain from embracing.”
We live in such a to-do culture that when things aren’t happening fast enough, i.e. in our time frame, you may get frustrated, annoyed and may even think you’re failing. It’s so uncomfortable, in fact, that many people fill in the ‘free’ time by shopping, over-doing, paying too much attention to someone else’s business (literally and figuratively) or fill-in-the-blank default behaviors that are counter-productive.
What if you just refrain…from embracing? What if you simply let go, allow the world to revolve without pushing it a degree or two yourself and wait and see what happens. Breathe, clean a closet. Just be.
This morning’s reading in my daily meditation book includes a quote by Lin Yutang whom I had to google to find out who he was.
Besides the noble art of getting things done; there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of the nonessentials.
Here’s a challenge for you–Will you let go of pushing an outcome, just for today?
I couldn’t have chosen a better book to read this week before my Soul Proprietor Community topic call: Allow the Universe to Manifest than Lisa Jones‘ Art of Living Happy - After the Loss of a Loved One: A Real-Life Awakening.
Once I opened the volume, I couldn’t put it down. Her riveting true-life story of her husband’s untimely death at age 44 and the sequence of events/miracles that happened after, support her belief in the power of our Universe and the existence of angels.
Yes, I’m a skeptic, and I have not had her dramatic experiences, but I believe everything she says. Lisa is gifted with an ability to hear voices, receive wisdom, and bring it to those who need to hear it, i.e. anyone who wants the information and is open and available to receive it.
I don’t want to give away Lisa’s incredible story, but will share one of my favorite incidents that spoke to me particularly as I find myself in a transition in my own life. She and her second husband were planning to do major renovations on her marital home. With the architectural plans ready for breaking ground, “Everything that could go wrong did.”
- Wrong paperwork was filed
- Town lost paperwork.
- P + Z notice didn’t get published.
- No quorum at meeting of P + Z
- Issue over a variance
- Board member error
- Etc., etc., etc.
Who hasn’t faced delays or setbacks of this ilk? Here comes the miracle:
The week of approval, as I drove by a beautiful lake home that had been on the market for six months, I noticed that a new real estate company was representing the house…I’d always been drawn to it on a gut level. [But it was under renovation by the couple living there.] As it turned out, as soon as the couple was done with the renovations [our real extate friend] Lee called to tell me that “the husband has been transferred to Texas for a new job, and that they were listing the property for sale…[and that the once out-of-reach price point] dropped yesterday, by quite a bit! It looks like the owners must have taken a buyout, and the relocation company wants to sell it as soon as possible to get it off their books.”
Reading this passage was like having my own angels tapping me on the shoulder and saying, “Trust us!” Everything that is happening is happening for a reason. Stay the course you’re on and more will be revealed.
What I also loved about this book is Lisa’s account of how she developed her gift into a thriving practice. You can imagine how many nay-sayers there were out there (slightly more than those who didn’t believe I could make a business out of decorating eggs!), especially family members, who were less-than-encouraging of this accountant turned channeler. Lisa overcame personal and professional obstacles on her way to becoming truly recognized and appreciated for her gifts. I admire her tenacity, honesty and willingness to share her journey with those of us whose paths are wider.
Congratulations and all the best to Lisa who has known that this is her path and has written the book declaring it to the world.
Why re-invent the wheel when Oprah put it into words for me? Two sentences in the recent edition of O Magazine fit me to a T.
It’s my dream to encourage other people to connect the dots of spirituality for themselves, to recognize the fullness of their being and to live that fullness. That is where all our potential lies, and getting people to see it is what I was created for.
Oprah continues to fulfill on her mission by creating her OWN Network, publishing her magazine and setting up schools for girls in Africa and more.
My means are more humble, but suit me perfectly. I accomplish my life purpose through coaching, speaking and writing.
I believe that YOU, too, are exactly where you need to be and that my calling–should we meet–is to help you identify and move into your fullness–your great potential.
I’m holding my first NYC-based networking event to have that conversation with you.
Connection & Conversation
Our evening together will consist of my signature coaching and
networking exercises designed to help you re-connect with your goals,
re-ignite your passion and expand your network:
Thursday, October 24, 2013
6:30pm – 8:30pm
In Good Company
16 W. 23rd Street – 4th Floor
New York City
Seating is limited to 25 women.
Please RVSP by October 15, 2013: Click here to register
The first person to sign up for my virtual Mastermind Group lives on Martha’s Vineyard. She’s been a client of mine before and appreciates being connected with other women entrepreneurs who are on a mission, as she is. It had been virtually impossible for her to join my earlier groups in CT or NYC because of the travel involved.
Lucky for her, to participate in this group she will not need to hop a ferry and drive 5 hours to be in the company of others who get her. Wherever she and her computer are on Thursday nights, she can log on and SEE, HEAR and interact with this hand-picked group.
I can’t wait to see all your faces using this easy technology. I hired a guy via taskrabbit to help me understand how to use google+ hangouts, and we accomplished the task in 5 minutes–it’s that easy! Quick as a bunny!
What’ll happen in our sessions is that we will come together for three hours a night six times (there’s a bonus seventh session should you have to miss one) during which time you’ll talk about what’s really important to you. A goal that may be eluding you or a vision that needs refining.
Everyone in the group will have the opportunity to give voice to her dream. It’s important to hear what others aspire to. Nothing lifts the entrepreneurial soul like hearing a colleague talk about holding a conference, writing a book, creating a web series or an equally challenging, but rewarding mission. Following each others’ progress over the course of our time together will reinforce your goals.
During each session you’ll give and receive feedback. I can’t tell you the number of times that members of my groups hear an idea, a tip or a suggestion that alters their path forward. The level of excitement and action grows with every session as you begin to deliver on your plan. There is momentum, new information, but most important the love and support any germ of an idea needs to grow. You’ll have a new goal set at each meeting which you’ll be held accountable for at the next session. The check-ins at the beginning of each call are one of the most rewarding and affirming parts of this process.
As a coach since 2002, I’m good at hearing obstacles that may not be self-evident. I love challenging clients to try things a bit differently, or to reach higher than you might on your own. Sometimes the challenge is to simply let go and get a massage while the Universe manifests for you. My clients love THAT homework assignment, but it’s one I offer rarely, so come prepared to work hard and love the process.
With the support and inspiration of 6-8 other women business owners who have your back, cherish your dreams as much as you do, and are on a mission themselves, this is going to be a dynamic, exciting, and intimate experience. Here’s where you get to let your hair down among peers, talk about what’s really going on behind the scenes, and hear how others are overcoming their roadblocks.
Having been in my own group for over 20 years, I can promise you that you’ll leave every session more energized and committed than you were when you logged on.
What would thrill you to have accomplished by January 2014? If you can dream it, I can help you get there. Join me from wherever you are and meet a team that will change your life.
Here’s the scoop.
I had a glorious 24 hours with my Mastermind Intensive group Sunday-Monday. We gathered at a member’s home the afternoon of the 8th to create vision boards, have a potlluck and reunite after the summer. I was as much a guest as everyone else, basking in the warmth of our members and soaking up female togetherness in such an intimate environment. Monday was our all-day session in Westport where I took charge and continued the process of helping these unstoppable women to realize their visions.
On Sunday afternoon one of our group said something that struck me. We were all gathered in the pristine white, screened-in gazebo in our hostess’s backyard. This particular member was sitting crosslegged on the cushioned window seat looking totally at peace. She told us how grateful she was to be in such a safe, loving and nurturing environment. And that she wished she could have this intimacy and safety more often.
What struck me about this was that, for her, it was the exception.
In that quiet, unspectacular moment I had a big AHA. I realized that safe, loving and nurturing environments have become the norm for me.
Five to seven times a week I attend a fellowhsip where I walk into unconditional love, respect and support.
Three times a week I speak to an accountability partner (aka good friend) about whatever next step I’m taking in my business.
Every Tuesday morning at 6:30am I speak with two of my spiritual buddies about financial serenity.
Every Thursday at 6:15am I take a call from a woman wanting that same financial serenity.
I meet with my own Mastermind Group once a month to offer support to each other.
I have a regularly scheduled call with my siblings once a month to offer love and support to each other and to catch up on our news across the miles.
Most important, I have weeded out the energy vampires who would quickly undo the benefits I’d received from the other environments. I am a free woman!
And that’s what it takes for this soul proprietor to stay peaceful, productive, serene and joyous.